Relationships, Responsibility and Regeneration – Venus in the Retrograde Shadow

venusVenus, goddess of love, is slowing down, preparing to turn Retrograde on December 21, and the feminine in each of us and in the collective is up for reevaluation and regeneration.

We started feeling the influence on November 20, when Venus entered her Retrograde “shadow.” Her upcoming (apparent) reversal is contributing to the seasonal slowing of momentum – the desire to turn inward during these dark days, to reflect on your values and priorities, to reassess where you’ve been and where you’re headed.

During Venus Retrograde, until January 31 (though the influence will linger on until March 4), all the “RE-” words — review, revisit, renew, revise, renegotiate, reclaim… — apply to the Venusian realms of love, beauty, art, pleasure, relationship, money, values and worth. Signs of “Venus-deficiency” come into awareness – the ways you might feel unattractive, unloved, unworthy, disconnected, or where there’s a lack of pleasure, abundance, beauty and sensual/erotic fulfillment.

A Retrograde planet turns the energy inward, so that you’re unlikely to find what you’re looking for – in this case, love and validation – “out there,” and instead are compelled to generate those feelings from within. Venus Retro reveals unhealed issues around self-love and self-worth, and this is a time to pull back from relationships with other people to strengthen the most important relationship of all – the one with yourself.

venusrossettiIt’s not uncommon for friends and lovers from your past to reappear during Venus Retro. There may be unfinished business that wants to be resolved with this person so you can more easily move into the future. “New” partners who come into your life are likely to have strong past-life ties, and have come back into your life to do some soul-level growth and healing. If you’re in a partnership, it’s typical for old issues to get stirred up – again, there’s something from the past that wants to be healed and resolved before the relationship can move forward.

Venus also rules money, and the financial flow sometimes slows during Venus Retro. While not an auspicious time to launch a major new financial venture, Venus Retro is a great time to clean up any financial issues from the past. Money owed to you will come back (ask for it!) during this period, if it’s ever going to. At a deeper level, Venus Retro is a time for reviewing your relationship to money, especially as it relates to what you value and how you value yourself.

It might be helpful to look back at the previous Venus Retrograde, May 15 to June 27, 2012, to get a feel for what might transpire this time around. Themes from that period are likely to resurface during the current Retrograde.

capricornDuring this Retro tour, Venus is in Capricorn, and (due to her Retrograde) will be in the sign of the Sea Goat for an extra-long time – from November 5 to March 5. Capricorn rules responsibility, and Venus Retro in Cap asks:  Are you taking responsibility for your own needs, pleasure and sensual satisfaction (or are you projecting that responsibility onto someone else)? What and who are you really responsible for – are you taking responsibility for something that isn’t actually “yours”? How do you take responsibility for your relationships, for the intimacy and fulfillment that you do or don’t feel? Do you take responsibility for validating yourself and your worth?

Capricorn rules both work and authority, and work is an area of life where we tend to surrender or project our authority, feeling victimized by our boss, co-workers, customers or clients, schedule, paycheck (or lack thereof), etc. Renegotiating relationships with authority figures, and ultimately, with our own inner authority, is on the Venus Retro agenda. I’m also noticing that a lot of people are feeling a lack of motivation, or even dissatisfaction, in their work. We’re being asked to rethink how to bring more pleasure into our work, to realign our work with our deepest values and priorities.

Venus Retro in Capricorn is not particularly well-suited to the socializing, shopaholic fiesta that characterizes the modern western version of the holidays. Capricorn, the Hermit archetype, rules loneliness and its antidote, solitude. She would prefer a more traditional (ancient) approach to the Winter Solstice holy days – deep reflection, meditation, contemplation, stillness.

If your Sun or Rising sign is in Venus-ruled Taurus or Libra, or if you were born with Venus in Capricorn, then this Venus Retro will be especially strong for you. If you have a copy of your birth chart and some astro-technical know-how, you can get more specific about what this Venus Retro means for you. Find the house (or houses) that contain 13-29 degrees of Capricorn. The areas of life signified by this house are where you are:  reconsidering your values, needs and priorities; regenerating pleasure, beauty, receptivity and artistry; renegotiating relationships; revisiting and healing the past; strengthening self-love and self-worth.

– Emily Trinkaus

Priestesses everywhere – Join energy-healing magician Katie Todd and me on December 17 for our Gemini Full Moon Galactivation. We’ll be co-creating with the Solstice and Venus Retro energies, and exploring the Gemini/Sag themes of truth, trust and knowing. Find out more and register here.

And – Portlandia friends – I’ll be teaming up with Shamanic Astrologer Erik Roth for Venus Reborn – Welcoming A New Cycle of the Divine Feminine, a community ceremony and workshop, January 17 and 18. All are welcome, details here.

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23 Responses to Relationships, Responsibility and Regeneration – Venus in the Retrograde Shadow

  1. Angela K. Rider says:

    As soon as I finished reading this I sent it out to all my peeps! Great, as always. Thank you! xoxo

  2. Thank you as always, Priestess Emily!

  3. Erik Roth says:

    Thank you for invoking the Venus in Capricorn within us all, Emily! 🙂

  4. hm, right over my natal sun . . .

  5. Ana Oliveira says:

    Excellent article, Emily. Is just what I need to do and you give excellent tips here.
    Jupiter in Cancer brought an emotional overwhelm, expanded what was missing, my need to live better with myself and felling fulfilled. Now in retrograde movement, the transit was a blessing because it calmed down these feelings. Is doing a conjunction to my natal Venus in Cancer near the cusp of the 5 House,, while the transit of Saturn in Scorpio makes a Trine to my Venus,a also. Therefore the issues of Venus are the order of the day for myself and this retrograde period of Venus in transit (which will make opposition to my natal Venus (19 in Cancer), too, will bring all matters relating to affectivity, love and disaffections and intimacy to the forefront so that they can be reassessed them. I hope to be able to do it! Thanks Emily for this article so well explained!

    • emily says:

      Thank you, Ana! It sounds like you’ve got a great understanding of the cosmic forces at work – and wonderful support for healing all things Venusian.

      • Arlyuna says:

        You’re welcome! Great post! Spot on, really. My 9th house contains Capricorn 13-29 degrees and guess what – I first had the concrete thought that it would be nice to immerse myself in a third culture on November 20th. So now I’m seriously getting into Korean and planning to move to Seoul too.

  6. Hi Emily–very interesting post! I’m about to publish book 4 and am wondering whether this is the right time? (late jan-early Feb or thereabouts)…also trying to find another approach to marketing. Also do I have venus in capricorn? I don’t think so but I have been experiencing the things you write about. 🙂

    • emily says:

      hi Nikki! When it comes to publishing, I would be more concerned about the next Mercury Retro, Feb 6 to Feb 28. Better to publish either before mid-late Jan., or wait until March… And, you’ve got Venus in Sag. We’re ALL experiencing this Venus Retro, regardless of where natal Venus is, and since you’ve got the Sun & Mars in Cap, you might be feeling it more personally. xoxo

  7. thank you, Emily! that clarifies things…

  8. Zuzanna Vee says:

    Perfect. Can’t wait!

    On Tue, Dec 10, 2013 at 10:57 PM, virgo magic

  9. Sandra McCleaf Ellis says:

    Hi Emily…. Happy Holidays I hope all is well and I do hope you’ve caught up to Dale O’Brien by now. Thanks again for the great insight into Venus Retrograde… Sandy Ellis

    Date: Wed, 11 Dec 2013 03:56:51 +0000 To:

  10. kweenish says:

    Peace sis! Thank you so much for this information. Now I have a clearer understanding of what’s going on around here. Are there any tools we can use to achieve balance during this time?

  11. As always, your blog confirms my reality:) Thank you for writing this blog!

  12. Ava says:

    Man this one might be challenging for me… I have a very Venus-dominant chart (Sun, Moon, and Mercury in Taurus, then Libra ascendant with also Mars, Saturn, and Pluto there as well). This retrograde will have Venus crossing back over my South Node in Capricorn, squaring my natal Pluto and then my natal Saturn/ASC 1′ conjunction – Mars will be crossing my ASC then as well. Needless to say this looks challenging… I have just been through sooo much Saturn stuff (first Saturn return then opposite my Sun & Moon) and was hoping for a break. I think I “get” what this is about for me energetically which is trying to release my inherited priorities about status/achievement (South Node in Capricorn) and finding worth within myself, but I don’t have much hope from where I’m standing because all I’m feeling and seeing is a lot of very old pain, but I guess the wound must first be cleaned before it can heal… sigh

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